tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-570655052849048780.post2196029213290058126..comments2023-11-03T13:16:48.376+00:00Comments on A Woman Of No Importance: Counting Ants...A Woman Of No Importancehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02194976046531063422noreply@blogger.comBlogger10125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-570655052849048780.post-46611168896202051242010-04-16T02:11:28.031+01:002010-04-16T02:11:28.031+01:00so sorry that you are having to deal with all this...so sorry that you are having to deal with all this stress...I hope things are settling down. xxooCarma Sezhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01897159620671834070noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-570655052849048780.post-26229824429884025822010-04-13T20:27:20.869+01:002010-04-13T20:27:20.869+01:00Sending you the love xSending you the love xauntiegwenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03605486752049211743noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-570655052849048780.post-62537441596634620792010-04-12T17:42:26.758+01:002010-04-12T17:42:26.758+01:00It's always a melancholy business. As My Dad&#...It's always a melancholy business. As My Dad's only child, I handled his 'estate' (that being a small home and very little inside it, all of which I inherited - including the tax bills and other problems.) Aside from the financial and legal aspects of such things, which are a pain but not sad, the going through personal effects is what brings the tears.<br /><br />I cried the longest and hardest when I came upon a copy of "The Velveteen Rabbit" on Dad's bookshelf. I recalled how, despite his rough boxer/wrestler/burly exterior, he was such a sentimental and romantic person. I knew he had probably cried during the reading of that book - as most folks with some leaning toward a belief in animism might - and that thought brought the tears to me, which flowed uncontrollably for perhaps five minutes.<br /><br />God bless, and best of luck in the current situation. You'll get through it.Suldoghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07778845367184916684noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-570655052849048780.post-83680612990823827822010-04-12T17:23:09.348+01:002010-04-12T17:23:09.348+01:00Beautifully done, Fhi. I'm so sorry that so m...Beautifully done, Fhi. I'm so sorry that so many meaningful things were taken from the house.<br /><br />Love to you,<br />Bloggus<br />XXOOXXblognuthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01161713516407124717noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-570655052849048780.post-3836533340022572022010-04-12T13:55:24.745+01:002010-04-12T13:55:24.745+01:00l too felt l was holding my breath as you took eac...l too felt l was holding my breath as you took each tentative step in this place, no longer a home...but the memory of i as it once was still hot in your minds eye...you are very brave and have done the right thing...l hoe you get to go back soon and look see if any more ants are lurking, you must double check, just in case some hidden morsel gives you the sustenance you seek and crave...<br /><br />we all dread this day and avoid it...but it comes to all, one way or the other, always painful on some levels, often on several...<br /><br />you are a star...and l am very proud of you...your words are beautiful though full of hurt and pain...<br />l am honoured you are sharing them wit us..<br /><br />lots of luv, hugs soonest..<br /><br />saz xSazhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04433666175721615185noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-570655052849048780.post-85872854377351989162010-04-12T12:16:59.198+01:002010-04-12T12:16:59.198+01:00I walked through that empty house with you, holdin...I walked through that empty house with you, holding tightly to your hand, gasping at the meanness, the smallness of the person who did this to you. The worst is almost over, darling. They must not win by making you bitter, though that will be a hard row to plough.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-570655052849048780.post-20245110973585721302010-04-12T11:39:01.486+01:002010-04-12T11:39:01.486+01:00If I had one, I'd send you a medal! You are d...If I had one, I'd send you a medal! You are doing all the right things, however difficult it may all seem.<br /><br />I do have some idea of what you have been going through for the last few years, but we have one thing that no-one can take away from us - our memories! Thirty years after going through something similar, my world is still full of "triggers" that set off memories, and I wouldn't want it any other way. Sometimes I smile when I hear a particular song being played and it takes me back, just for a while, to a different time and place that only I know - only I CAN know - and that is the magic of memories. <br /><br />I have no physical memories to link with, not even a photo, but I find now that they, although longed for, are not necessary. You have some of your physical memories but far more importantly, you have what is in your head and no-one can take those from you.<br /><br />As Spike Milligan used to say when ending his letters....<br /><br />Love, Light and Peace.The Spivhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07382350268661540615noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-570655052849048780.post-37870613238384957192010-04-12T09:36:20.961+01:002010-04-12T09:36:20.961+01:00Oh sweet Fhina, this must have been such a difficu...Oh sweet Fhina, this must have been such a difficult day for you. The worry in advance and then everything you found - or didn't find - when you finally got to the house.<br /><br />How awful of someone not to even wash up their mug and just leave it getting more and more yukky - this to me shows exactly what someone is like. In such minute details are people's true personalities to be found.<br /><br />I presume that only the daughter has had keys to the place and would have accompanied her relatives to poke around and steal what was not theirs to take. Can you contact her and ask her who specifically has certain things or would you not want to do that? Perhaps you just want to move on. I'm glad you have the china cow scourer holder and the blue stoppered bottle at least. Things your lovely mutti held in her own hands.<br /><br />Well done on your father's ashes getting to the next stage. This must have been very difficult for you and you have been very brave. You should rightly feel very proud of yourself. Perhaps a little treat is in order - go on, you deserve it totally.<br /><br />I'm proud of you, Fhina and also desperately sad for you. <br /><br />xxFrench Fancy...https://www.blogger.com/profile/04941577892849157015noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-570655052849048780.post-28396121736948553752010-04-12T09:04:39.312+01:002010-04-12T09:04:39.312+01:00So sad. So beautifully written. I honestly don'...So sad. So beautifully written. I honestly don't know what to write to support you. All I can do is send my virtual love and hugs. Vxvegemitevixhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08499944412217904302noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-570655052849048780.post-39390322216195493072010-04-12T00:42:42.368+01:002010-04-12T00:42:42.368+01:00Vividly written...I felt as though I was taking th...Vividly written...I felt as though I was taking that journey with you. I could even smell the smells. <br />Hugging you<br />SueAnnSueannhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05299288406218968621noreply@blogger.com