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Thursday, 22 January 2009

The moving finger writes; And, having writ, Moves on: Nor all thy Piety nor Wit shall lure it back to cancel half a line, Nor all thy Tears...


I offer no apologies about today's quietly contemplative blog. The title coming from the Rubaiyat of Omar Khayyam.

Stinking Billy also spoke of this yesterday. And Scriptor Senex has also recently lost a loved friend at a too early age...

A well-known, well loved and well respected blogger, Emma Bearfoot, AKA Mad Asthmatic, passed at the age of 32 earlier this week. Her dear friend, Carma, let all of us know who had the pleasure (albeit brief, in my case), of knowing Emma. This was very kind of her.


Emma's last writing dealt with what may have been a personal philosophy on life, and this is a page in her book from which we all could take a leaf.

If I may just continue by quoting Emma's blog almost verbatim for you, and thinking of those valued lives we all might have lost while lighting a few candles for them:


"The certainty of life is death, but the passage of time between birth and death is ours and ours alone.

Try to make sure when the time comes that you have few regrets about the life you have spent...


Call a spade a spade and you won't go far wrong. If you give out harsh words be ready to receive them back. If you can not take what you yourself hand out then keep silent.

Friends will come and go. If they are meant to be true then they will remain, and those who are just passing ships will pass through your life at times", (dictated by fate and Karma, in my opinion).

Photobucket "Remember each friendship with affection but do not mourn its demise, for another friend is around the corner.


Follow the road that you wish to follow for your life, do not follow the crowd

unless it is what you truly want.

If you make a mistake, then have the courage to rectify it; If you wish to take a different path to those around you do not apologise.

Photobucket For we have only one life and, in order not to regret those missed opportunities, we must be prepared to walk against the crowd at some points in our lives.

Do not stay silent if there is someone you love, Photobucket do not regret words unsaid, do not assume they know how you feel. Red faces can be got over but unsaid words will remain just that.


Make it your mission to brighten one person's life each day with a smile and a hello. Politeness and pleasantness costs nothing, and yet can make such an impact.

Do not ask "How are you today?", if you don't want to know.

Have the courage to be yourself and not care what others think.

Make having no regrets your mission for life".

Emma's is a philosophy that I often try to encourage others to adopt in life - a mantra. Hey, I know it isn't easy; Don't shoot the messenger...


As the little sparrow, Edith Piaf sang throughout her own troubled life, Je Ne Regrette Rien...

Have no regrets about what you have done, what you have had to do, and about what you might have to do in your life - Try to lead a good and worthy life...

~ Be yourself, be comfortable in your own skin, plough your own furrow, be good to yourself every day, treat others as you would wish to be treated - with kindness and with civility;

"Spread your rubber loving and it'll come on back to you" (as Macy Gray sings).

Above all - Leave nothing left unsaid, leave nothing left unsaid friends...



Derrick said...

Hello Fhina,

Thanks for your kind comments on my post, yesterday.

Although I was not familair with MA, I have since looked at her blog. Your entry is so beautifully illustrated with the photographs. It would indeed be wonderful if we were all able to follow this path.

Fat, frumpy and fifty... said...

very well said...Fhina

a fitting tribute..and lovely images..


Annie Empiric said...

Today I am a tad sad thinking about some friend drama and your post really lifted my spirits and made me stop feeling sorry for myself.

"Remember each friendship with affection but do not mourn its demise, for another friend is around the corner"......

Thanks for the wise words

Diane said...

Grrrr... I just took 10 minutes to write a comment and Blogger screwed me.

Anyway, I'll give you the condensed version... I said that Emma's last post made me realize it was time to take care of something in my own life; something I might have let fester a lot longer if I hadn't read it. And I thanked you, dear Fhina, for making it possible for more people than otherwise would have read her post, to experience the wisdom of her words.

carma said...

What a beautiful tribute to Emma. I had tears in my eyes as I read her final words again.

Stinking Billy said...

fhina, I am so pleased you published this tribute. It is warm, beautiful and glowing, and nothing less than talented Emma deserves. Bless you,

auntiegwen said...

What a beautiful tribute. I hope I can learn to speak up and let someone know what they mean to me, to me that is the most important message of all.

Clippy Mat said...

This is beautiful. so sad, that someone so young and with such a good heart had to leave so early.
It's good that you paid tribute to her here.

Clippy Mat said...

p.s. did you get my email re the questions?

Scriptor Senex said...

A wonderful post. Thank you.

Granny on the Web said...

You have embraced it all in the way you have written your tribute. Beautifully done. Much more eloquent than my own, even though I also quoted her last post.

Fifi Flowers said...

What a lovely post!

A Woman Of No Importance said...

Derrick - You are lovely, thank you! I know these things aren't easy to do, and they are worth sharing, and repeating, to remind ourselves of what really is important in life, eh?

FFF - Merci, mon amie! x

Diane - Don't get me started on grrrr Blogger! Emma is a star, and this just tweeted into my head, "If I can help somebody...as I pass along the way..." You might be too young to remember that song! x

Carma - Many thanks to you, and I think Emma is bringing us all closer together, and helping us to see what's valuable in our lives, and that's such a good thing...

Clipstress, big hugs - No I haven't received your e-mail - angelwild18@hotmail.com x

Gwennie - I've got all out of kilter with my replies, sorry, but I know saying things out loud to someone important to you is so difficult, and yet my strongest feeling is one of not letting our lives be measured by regrets, and 'could haves', 'should haves'. I'm certain Emma felt that too.

Billy - x

Scriptor - You are a well-hidden treasure and bold, brave blogger!

Web-Granny - As I said over at your blog, it's important Emma's lasting words in Blogland get out to as many as possible - They are so valid and so valuable...I know you agree x

Fifi - Bless you, darling x

Hadriana's Treasures said...

Love this post. I've been reading your writing. So often you say things so well I am stumped to add anything more. Hx

Graham said...

I've just come to you through Scriptor's Rambles. I know him very well and your comment above was so apt. What a much better place the world would be if we lived by that which you have on in this posting. Oh, and I do remember the song 'If I can help somebody.....then my living shall not be in vain'. I sing it a lot!

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