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Thursday, 25 June 2009

My father and me...

St. Abbs Head Rocks on North Sea Pictures, Images and Photos

When my dad died in the year 2006, I felt like one drifting out at sea.

The world for a time held no meaning.

No rhythm, only watery tears...

And when I had to find the right words to write on the stark white card I would leave with the pure white, lemon-flecked, lilies to adorn his last resting spot, I found Stevie Nicks' words on her father, Jess's, recent sudden passing, said all that I needed to say about my love and my hope...

Can I share them with you, my bloggy treasures?!

"In my father’s painting,
The house by the sea...
In the dream house,
By the water
Go my father and me..."

white lilies Pictures, Images and Photos

19 comments:

Chairman Bill said...

Mine shuffled off his mortal coil in 1999, just before my 2nd son was born. A true gentleman in every sense of the word. Where did I go wrong?

Derrick said...

Lovely words, Fhina. Daughters and Fathers have a special bond and it's always there.

♥ Braja said...

Father's day brought up a lot, didn't it...

Reasons to be Cheerful 1,2,3 said...

Tears to my eyes. Sending you love. xxx

mzbehavin said...

A big hug to you for this beautiful post..... My Dad passed away on October 3, 2006, four months after being diagnosed with lung cancer. I was 41, and felt like a 5 year old abandoned at the bus stop.

ladyfi said...

Beautiful words. Hugs to you , dear one.

Dedene said...

I miss my dad too. Why are they always the very best men?

Chairman Bill said...

Funny isn't it? Fathers are paragons of virtue, but ex husbands are the devil's spawn.

Tessa said...

How poignant, how moving and almost unbearably beautiful. A lovely tribute to fathers everywhere. Thank you.

SandyCalico said...

Beautiful. I miss my Dad too. 2006 was a bad year for Dads.

lakeviewer said...

Fathers will always be missed for what they represented to us as little girls: strong presence, assurance, protector. Mostly, they made us feel most precious, most loved and certainly the prettiest, smartest people around. How can we not cry? As I read your post I cried. As I write a response, I cry. You brought back the pain of the loss, the enormous loss.

Now, let me pass you a handkerchief and a cup of tea/coffee. We are the women we are because of those loving fathers.

blognut said...

Love you, Fhina.

Bloggus
XXOOXX

shabby girl said...

Very nice. How fortunate for you to have had a close relationship with your father. As it should be.

Diane said...

Tomorrow's my daddy's birthday. I miss him like crazy. I feel those words... and you, Fhina, love... XOXO

A Woman Of No Importance said...

Chairman Bill: You have done naught wrong, Sir, you are a fine man and a fine father x

Derrick: Thank you, Derrick, you always have a knack for the right word in the right place, Sir x

♥ Braja: Namaste, sweet Braja x

Reasons to be Cheerful 1,2,3: And mine, my darling - I needed to get this out, and yet, I found it very difficult, amid the watery tears...still... Love to you, lots of it xxx

mzbehavin: Welcome sweetheart, and I think we're never prepared, even if we know the passing is coming and is inevitable... I had these feelings of being abandoned, and helpless too... And our fathers would not wish us to feel thus, would they? Blessings x

ladyfi: Many blessings, ladyfi, you beauty x

Dedene: Did you see my award to you, Dedene, the day before yesterday, or yesterday? I know what you mean about our fathers, and to be honest, I could not properly see my husband until my dad had left this earth... There was only my dad... The only man in my life then... Be blessed xxx

Chairman Bill: I have no ex-husband, Sir, so I know not of what you speaketh... Take care :) I always think and feel - It takes 2 to tango...

Tessa: Thank you, sweet Tessa - And this was truly from my heart, I swear to you... Blessings to much loved fathers everywhere. Thank you too xox

SandyCalico: I am sorry, SandyC x

lakeviewer: Rosaria, thank you for your much needed handkerchief - I truly found this difficult to write, but I wanted to put it down on vitual paper, to mark his beautiful life, and I still have tears to cry, my beautiful friend - I shall never stop, when I think of him... Thank you for your friendship, your wonderful, so apt words, and your lovely hankie xox

Love you Bloggus Sisternut xxxoooxxx

Shabstress: As it should be, indeed, my shabstress xox

Diane: Bless you, Diane - Sending you love and hugs, and a glass raised to our dads, eh? ;) xxxoooxxx

Whitemist said...

Been there, a long time past, but still miss him. he still is around me, often.

A Woman Of No Importance said...

Whitemist - I am pleased you feel your dad too - They are always in our hearts and close - Except I can't take mine stuff to fix any more... He was always good at that, bless him! Blessed be, Whitemist, and welcome back x

Artist Unplugged said...

It stinks to high heaven, doesn't it? I miss my dad very much, his birthday is in a couple of days. Recently he was in my dream dressed in kind of a dressy, flashy suit that was bright and I told him, "I love you very much" to which he said, "that was worth coming back for". I hope I never forget that dream.

May you pain grow weaker and your memories grow stronger. I am thankful for your dad, that he helped produce and nurture such a wonderful friend. I once read that you grieve as much as you loved........which tells me we will grieve probably forever. Big ol' hug.

A Woman Of No Importance said...

AU: That he comes to you in your dreams is wondrous, non?! That is a fantastic memory of a wonderful father... Thank you for your beautiful comments, always, my darling... I know that we will miss them until we are no more... Such is life, such is love, such is loss, such is life's brief beauty...

My love to you xxx

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