At a time when other bloggers appear to be doing a review of their year, I've sat and pondered...
You see, this is what led me to call myself, 'A Woman Of No Importance' in the first place. I don't lead that interesting a life. Of course, there are moments of Fhina-madness and revelry, music, wine, men and song. I laugh a lot. I find other people look at me a lot when I'm laughing... Particularly in the street. I find humour in most things. You'd have to, living with ma famille!
I am a bit manic, a little highly strung, they used to call it. Neurotic. Apparently, according to some recent research bloggers, especially women bloggers, are more neurotic than other people.
“People who are high in openness to new experience and high in neurotics are likely to be bloggers. Additionally … women who are high in neuroticism are more likely to be bloggers as compared to those low in neuroticism whereas there was no difference for men.” SOURCE
How can they tell that from our blogs, I ask you?
Fair enough, I seem to spend more time looking for my keys than finding them and I do worry about endless and trivial stuff. But then GJ is far worse than I in this respect. Actually, he once confessed that he only married in order to be able to sleep without keeping the landing light on! He suffers from night terrors. Far fewer than he used to, admittedly, but for a time there I did sleep with the kitchen knife under my mattress...
There was a bit of a discussion in the comments section the other day, when I asked "Are we back to normal yet?", after Christmas. There might have been an assumption that I could define and understand just what 'normal' is or does...
I can define those among my friends and colleagues that 'mainstream', those that choose to 'fit in', who pigeon-hole themselves and who stay well within their comfort zones in life, never straying far from the path of what is expected of them. They don't 'live it large'. I'm just not one of those people.
And as I grow older, I'm even less inclined to choose to conform. My late Mutti, quite a brave public bus driver, was a great one for saying something along the lines of, 'Take me as I am, or get stuffed!, but I know she also struggled with that mantra.
My cracked sister, Wiki, took out her psychiatrist's pad the other day as I lay down upon her red velvet chaise-longue, and she told me about the effects of neurosis, which may be:
...anxiety, sadness or depression, anger, irritability, mental confusion, low sense of self-worth, etc., behavioral symptoms such as phobias, vigilance, impulsive and compulsive acts, lethargy, cognitive problems such as unpleasant thoughts, repetition of thoughts and obsession, habitual fantasizing, negativity and cynicism. Interpersonally, neurosis involves dependency, aggressiveness, perfectionism, socio-culturally inappropriate behaviors, hypochondria, etc..."
Oo-er. I have more than a 'grain de folie' it appears. And yet, when I read a definition of "What is good mental health", I wonder...
"Being mentally healthy doesn’t just mean that you don’t have a mental health problem.
If you’re in good mental health, you can:
make the most of your potential
cope with life
play a full part in your family, workplace, community and among friends
Some people call mental health ‘emotional health’ or ‘wellbeing’ and it’s just as important as good physical health. We all have times when we feel down or stressed or frightened. Most of the time those feelings pass. But sometimes they develop into a more serious problem and that could happen to any one of us.
Everyone is different. You may bounce back from a setback while someone else may feel weighed down by it for a long time. Your mental health doesn’t always stay the same. It can change as circumstances change and as you move through different stages of your life.
There’s a stigma attached to mental health problems. This means that people feel uncomfortable about them and don’t talk about them much. Many people don’t even feel comfortable talking about their feelings. But it’s healthy to know and say how you’re feeling". SOURCE
Good mental health is defined as, having, "
- the ability to learn
- the ability to feel, express and manage a range of positive and negative emotions
- the ability to form and maintain good relationships with others
- the ability to cope with and manage change and uncertainty
- talking about your feelings, keeping active, eating well, drinking sensibly, keeping in touch with friends and loved ones, asking for help when you need it, taking a break, doing something you’re good at and enjoy, accepting who you are, and caring for others.
Here endeth the sermon from the Fhina-Sofa-Soapbox.
Mwah! Don't run away, I'm after wishing you a Happy New Year with the traditional kiss... Mwah! What do you mean, you're allergic to Mistletoe??!