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Saturday 14 February 2009

Valentine's Day's Meme

I am sorry for those of you who have visited and not found the Comments box - I had just been trying to zhuzh things around a bit here, trying to remove the tick boxes - But I have now put them back, as it seems to create a division of sorts between the warbling!

If you missed your Valentine's Day card and wishes from me, then please scroll down, and also if you want to take Fhina's Blog of Distinction Award, the reasoning behind it is below! Cheers, m'dears!


This Valentine's Day Meme came from here.
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This Meme is all about how I met my significant other... Enjoy!


Where did the two of you meet?

Photobucket I was friends with GJ's sister - That friendship hasn't lasted well over the years, but she brought her 20 year old brother along to a dance at College - A Scottish Ceilidh - For me, there was chemistry and lust at first sight, and I plucked up the courage to ask him to dance with me.

Mind you, this was the Eighties - I was wearing black leather ballet pumps with tiny black bows.
Photobucket They were a lot like these, only matte black. They shot off my feet whenever we took a turn, (which you cannot avoid in Scottish dancing!), or if I raised my leg (ditto!);
Photobucket I had on a red patterned dress with a buttoney apron-type (not white like a proper 'pinny!) flap fastening, which kept unbuttoning whenever I was jostled (see Strip The Willow!),
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and a pair of earrings I had made from two Christmas baubles - Because it was nearly Christmas! Oh, and I had sprayed them and the tree in my room with fake snow earlier - I must have looked a fright, no wonder he said much later that I wasn't really his type... but eventually I wore him down and he couldn't resist me!

What was the first thought that went through your head when you first met him?

Photobucket He had long blonde hair, longer than mine, and I thought he was very elegant-looking - Thin, with a fine nose and light blue eyes. I wondered whether he had long fingernails, for I had a thing then for long-haired men with guitarist's fingers - He was sitting down, and I looked across, saw he had, and thought, "This is the man I want to live with..."
His hair was very like the young Rick Parfitt - Thankfully, he wasn't in the slightest bit else like him! Photobucket
Photobucket My friend from London always said he reminded her of Sting - I think it might have been the accent, I never could see it myself!

Do you remember what he was wearing?

A grey woollen three-piece suit and a I think a dark blue shirt - Not wholly appropriate for yer average Kilted Ceilidh, but he'd arrived straight from the office where he worked as a draughtsman...
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A telling moment, was when he was dancing with another man, because there weren't enough girls to go around, and they had to make up the numbers, and the Chanter called out: "Hoy you in the three piece suit, grab him in a ballroom hold!" Priceless!

Where did you go for your first date?

The next time I met him, his sister had brought him along to a Whitesnake concert - It was my nineteenth birthday... it was mid-December. We met for a drink before the gig and he swapped tickets with me, so that I could be in the front row with his sister, both drooling over David Coverdale!
Photobucket He sat behind a pillar in the gallery, bless him!

Where was the first time you kissed?

In his parents' living room at his home, where I had been invited to celebrate New Year. He had engineered it for us to meet, but had kept me waiting all day, because he was helping his best friend to move house. The wait was worth it, come midnight, when he was showing me a funny Christmas card from his uncle, and I was trying to get the joke (I can be very, very slow!), and he leant in for a kiss. When we parted for breath, I actually said, "Be still my beating heart..."
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When was the first time you realized you liked him?

When I first met him, but I later realized that I was in a constant state of Gibber - Sort of nervous tension, the chemistry thing - Weird to recall that now!
Photobucket My late mother called him, Gibber-HisName - Hence, GJ!

How long did you know him before you became a couple?

It must have been around 2 weeks... He moved into my student flat the following September, a fact which we hid from both our parents for some time... We pretended he was staying in his sister's room...

How did he propose to you?

Very romantically...............not! After my graduation, and him flunking out of the neighbouring University, we moved 'darn Sarf' - near to London - for work.

We travelled back home many weekends and, on a car journey returning to our southern home one Sunday around Easter, he suggested we get married, because at that time there was a special rate of taxation for married couples - Did I tell you he wasn't in the slightest bit romantic?!
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engagement! Pictures, Images and Photos So, I've never experienced the getting down on one knee, hiding a sparkling ring in a cupcake, kind of thing. In fact, my engagement ring was one given to me by my uncle after my aunt died. It had belonged to her - A 1950's 18 carat ring, with tiny trilogy diamonds in an ornate platinum setting. My mother's is very similar, but a little less ornate, and I have that too now... In actual fact, when we bought my wedding ring, he got me to write out the cheque. The man bleeds me dry!

Do you have kids together?

Grizz, 17 - Looks very like his father, but my friends also see me in his blond good looks - Did I have you fooled for a moment there?!

Handcuffs Pictures, Images and Photos Have you ever broken the law together?

Not to my knowledge. We almost caused a fire in our holiday apartment in Corfu one summer, leaving a kettle on the stove. We spent hours, searching high and low and couldn't find a kettle in Kassiopi to replace it, so we had to buy a pan... Does that count?


Do you trust him?

Yes, I do. That's not to say we haven't had our wobbles - At my friend's fiftieth, in summer, I found him sort of in the bushes with a part-time Candle Saleswoman... Nothing happened, but... I'm not talking about any of my fantasies, at this point!

Do you see him as your partner in your future?
Deadwood kicks the bucket Pictures, Images and Photos

Unless one of us kicks the bucket!

What is the best gift he gave you?
baby boy Pictures, Images and Photos

Our child, it's as simple as that - He bought me a car socket set one year - We were staying with my parents and I was just dialling a taxi to take him home when he gave me a gold ring shaped like a daisy with a pearl in the centre - That saved him!

What is one thing he does that gets on your nerves?

I can choose only one! It's not fair!!! He isn't a very tactile person - He doesn't like to be touched much... When we met, I drove him mad, tucking his long fronds of hair behind his ears - He tolerated it... briefly, and then asked me to stop!

cold fish Pictures, Images and Photos His family is are cold fish, buttoned-up in fact - His sister can be terribly detached, so can her children - They're a peculiar lot. We aren't good friends any more, and too much water (and bad blood...) has flowed under the bridge to ever get our friendship back...

Where do you see each other 15 years from now?

darby and joan Pictures, Images and Photos See my About Me - I hope!

What causes the most arguments?

money Pictures, Images and Photos Money in the past, far more than now - We've had some troubles financially over the years, owing to a couple of firms he worked for collapsing into the gutter. Now we mainly argue about the disciplining of Grizzler, but that money fear is ever there...

How long have you been together?

Married 23 years in July.

Together 27 years January past...

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I'm not going to tag anyone, but if you would like to do this Meme and you have some memories you would like to share, then go ahead! Please link back to me, if you do.

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19 comments:

Michelle said...

Lovely thanks for sharing!!!

Your son must be a special boy!!!

HAPPY VALENTINES DAY GIRLIE!!!

I LOVE YOU!!!!

Zuzana said...

This was beautiful and interesting at the same time.;) And romantic.;) Even though you think the proposal was not.;) I think many are this way; my mother "suggested" marriage to my father and they have been now married for almost 45 years.;))
Happy Valentine's Day.;))

Cynthia Pittmann said...

What a wealth of sharing here! Thanks for the V-day love story. May you have many more years of love ahead! <3 from Oasis in Puerto Rico.xx

Midlife, menopause, mistakes and random stuff... said...

What a touching, heartfelt and lovely story.
God bless you and your family always.

Steady On
Reggie Girl

Unknown said...

I'm leaving this message for the second time! Don't know what happened before.

I had great fun picturing you in your pinafore dress, ballet pumps and baubley earrings!

As ever, you have combined truth with humour, both essential ingredients for a successful partnership. Thanks!

david mcmahon said...

You just reminded me .... we have a ring in our family and one day I will tell its tale.

Saz said...

HAPPY Valentine's day, ma belle demoiselle!!

I borrowed this from Poetic Doris..and shall get to it pronto, in the flavour of love!

♥ Braja said...

Don't make me clutch my pearls? Love it...that's me....

Coachdad said...

Great post...beautifully done.

Susan English Mason said...

This is well-written and you sound like you are made for each other and you'll be together forever.

blognut said...

I love hearing how people met and wound up together. Great post.

Anonymous said...

I loved this and may have to steal it for our an anniversary post!

French Fancy... said...

This is the sort of meme I love reading.That Scottish dancing must have been so difficult - with shoes that fell off and an outfit that you must have been constantly fiddling with. But your eyes met and you felt that *he was the one*.

A Woman Of No Importance said...

Michelle: He is a special boy, and can somtimes be so maddening, too! Hope you're having a wonderful weekend x

Protege: Glad you liked it - I tried to make it funny, because it is when I look back at it! I left out the bit where I made my own proposal in the February of the Leap Year - I have always been a bit strong-willed and determined, in some ways! x

Cynthia: Bless you, and thank you, friend - Puerto Rock sounds just so romantic to me! xx

Midlife, menopause, mistakes and random stuff: Bless you, you are so lovely - I send my best to you and yours, too, Reggie Girl! x

Derrick: I am sorry you experienced techie difficulties - It happens from time to time to me too! It was a funny first date (not) - Of course if I had taken another path, I might have been living in Iran with one of the two men at the Ceilidh, who accosted me owing to my eye-catching, snow-flecked, ear-baubles, saying, "I like your 'rings!"

david mcmahon: I shall very much look forward to hearing the history of your family jewel, David!

Fat, frumpy and fifty: Hope yours was wonderful, Cherie?! I'm looking forward to hearing your Doris Story! xox

Braja: I loved that graphic when I saw it - Fabulous!

Coachdad: Hope you're having a fabulous weekend, Sir! Thank you for the award for all your readers - It graces my page and brings that much-needed masculine touch, n'est-ce pas?!

Poutalicious: Glad you liked it - There are often long periods where I just want to bury my OH under the patio, I kid you not, but overall we have been together for a long time...

blognut: x

Meredith Teagarden(The Things we Carried): Steal away with it, precious! It's a great prompt, I know you will do fantastic justice to it!

French Fancy: It was a hoot! Not sure about our eyes meeting - I clapped eyes on him and he took the path of least resistance, really - Besides, he was frightened of sleeping on his own, without the landing light on! I kid you not! x

Diane said...

I like how 'real' you are... you love him, it's clear, but you tell it like it is. It's what I love about you!

auntiegwen said...

I loved this, thank you for sharing this. I am the MOST shocking love addict, in fact someone gave me the nickname of Mush Queen !

Carma Sez said...

This is so eighties!! I can relate much of it- ornament earrings, David Coverdale lust, etc. Thanks for sharing!
carma

Melanie Gillispie said...

I kind of love your engagement story. All that froufrou stuff gets in the way of the real stuff, in my opinion. This was a great story, beginning to end.

A Woman Of No Importance said...

Diane: We are real people, 'though, aren't we - Whatever happens in life, it is important to try to be true to yourself - And fake sham helps no-one and gives others false ideas... In my humble opinion, as they say! Lots of love, Diane xoxs

auntiegwen: Most of us are addicted to something, and if we are self-aware, then sometimes we can take steps to prevent ourselves being too hurt by those addictions - With me, it's food, Mush Queen! xxx

carma: I wish I were good at scanning in photos - I will do this in time - My eighties wedding photos are a scream to me - My OH and Best Man look like Top Shop mannequins, and I look like the prim extra in Bananarama!

Mel: Thanks for stopping by! It is interesting that you say that 'all that froufrou stuff gets in the way of the real stuff', when that is what so many of us kind of pine for at least from time to time, including me, and I am so often disappointed, you know - You are very right, 'though! And I am glad you enjoyed my backstory! x

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