Ah, and so you're back... From Outer Space... I just walked in to find you here, with that sad look upon your face...
Et alors, mes petits Fortune Cookies, where were we, when we were so rudely interrupted by that power outage?
What do you mean, with all this paraphernalia I should have seen it coming??! You cheeky monkeys! ...I saw none of my darker experiences in the future I once had in mind for me...
How can we? If I had seen the visions, had it played out in front of me like the last reel in an old-time picture show, would I have walked down a different curved stone path to the cottage to hide out of the way of any of them?
Possibly...
And maybe not after all...
And, as I wibbled on about yesterday, I want to ask you something... but you don't need to comment or tell me the answer. I'd just like you to mull on it, my little Ossenpfeffers...
I'm setting some homework, if you like.
Well, it's been a while since you had any assignments, and I'm not just here for the good of my health, you know! ...Well, I am actually - for you all do me good, really you do. And, on that lovefest, voici la grande question I promised I would put to you yesterday:
When you were growing up, when you were knee high to a grass-hopper, envisioning the future for yourself, playing those, now childish, games that we play -- Truth or Dare, Counting the Prune-Stones and calling out 'Tinker, Tailor, Soldier, Spy...' to predict where we might end up.
- What did you see in your future? And what made you veer from that path you commenced on?
Was it a sixth sense, some chicken bones, or just good old common sense kicking in, that made you conjure a different future for yourself?
And please try to focus more on those tough decisions which have brought you to more positive outcomes for your life, on the path that you have chosen? The things which have made you into the warm, witty, wonder that you are...
Spookily, blognut was talking about this only yesterday... ...Cue Twilight Zone intro music, Doo, doo, doo, doo, doo, doo, doo, doo... In a writing prompt, she focused on what might you go back to childhood for and how might it have changed in your life. Here is the writing prompt question:
You can go back to your childhood for one day. What day and age do you choose?
I'll leave you to explore blognut's very wise conclusion on that question on your own two feet mes choux... Bloggus Nuttus's blog is always a great space to spend some time in - Thought-provoking questions, life-stories, dilemmas, tales, and lots of tinkling laughter shared among good friends.
There you are... Now, that wasn't so bad after all, was it? What did you expect when you came in to see me here in my Fortune Telling Booth at the wrong end of Foney-Fhi Island?!
Just leave that grey silk curtain drawn back as you leave, will you?
Thanks ever so much... I'm expecting my twelve o'clock now, is all...
Byeee, dahlink! See you again sometime, perhaps! I am certain our paths shall cross... After all, I've seen it in the tea-leaves.
27 comments:
You're starting to sound like Jonathan Cainer. Tell me my fortune, please!
Love it! Am mulling your question over...
Well this is going to take a little thought, and having just returned from the chiroprator, by brain (and the rest of me infact) is somewhat befuddled. I will return with homework complete when I have become clear thinking once more (ha!). That's so long as the dog doesn't eat me.
My friend, I can tell you now what I saw in my future and what made me take the many roads I've traveled.......
I always dreamed from the time that I was a little girl that one day I would be happy and lead an enchanted life.
I never gave up though I truly felt like it at times and finally found my Prince. Every day he treats me like a Princess and I am finally happy......
(I love the pup in the pink dress who kida looks like a flower girl....or should I say flower dog, lol).
Take good care and........
Steady On
Reggie Girl
The dog ate mine!
Love, that is an extraordinary question!! I am off to NYC today, I will ponder it on the subway ride there and home!!!
I just love your writing. It FLOWS like the ocean's waves!!!
M
Tough one. I tend not to dwell much on the past at all. In fact, I hardly think about it. I don't particularly like looking back - maybe I'm related to Lot's wife and learned my lesson:)
So, I'll pass on that one if you don't mind sweetie. I obviously draw on emotional experience as I take decisions along the way. But I never, ever dwell on past things, and revisiting my childhood wouldn't be much fun for me. I didn't like being a child. I had lovely loving parents, but I don't like thinking about them either. However, I didn't like being a child much. It was stressful where I lived. Quite rough and tough for a rather sensitive kid. I was glad to move to adulthood.
YOU'RE ABOUT AS NUTTY AS A BAR OF FRUIT AND NUT ARENT YOU MON AMI!?
JUST AS WELL REALLY AS I'M GRINDING TO A HALT VERY SHORTLY...AND ANY POST WITH ANY SEMBALNACE OF SANITY WOULD JUST NOT DO..SO THANK YOU!!
3 HOURS TO GO THEN I'M DONE AND SHALL SLOWLY (induced by chocoalte and gin) UNWIND.. J'ESPERE!
loads of love
FFF xxx (HUG)
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Thank you
The Seeker
I pondered this as well while reading my sweet friend, blognut's post yesterday:) Growing up, I wanted to be a mother, spin tales of wonder, be a teacher, help others, be a hippie, a gypsy and create things of beauty. I am happy to say I am doing all of those things. It didn't come without trials and tribulations...those things just made the prize sweeter:)
Have I told you lately that I love you? Oh, that's right, I tell you almost every day. You do know it then, right?
To your question, m'lady, other than that which I've already skirted around over at my place, I bobbed around like a cork at sea not making any life-altering decisions on a conscious level, and thereby making many from a self-destructive place in the blackest corner of my heart. I dared not to look into the future until I was about 19.
It was then that I finally realized I was surrounded by people, family and friends, who would lead me to a life I didn't want, and could not stand for even one more day. So I snapped out of it, buried my troubles in a deep place, and set about the business of taking back my life. That decision to trust my own heart, coming from deep within me, saved my soul and still does today.
Love, light, and a bone-crushing hug to you, Lady Fhina. x's and o's abound!
Chairman Bill: Certainly, Sir... In your past I see only the sea and a woman in every port... In your future, I see stability, or a stable - Some kind of beautifully built wooden structure in any case... With plentiful cats to cosset and skin, and a light-filled fair skinned woman, and your children, visiting, often... ;)
ladyfi: Thank you, precious - Remember, you don't have to comment, if you don't wish to...
Reasons to be Cheerful 1,2,3: Plenty of water and rest after your treatments, Reasons... Distract the dog with a biscuit! Be well, dahlink xx
Midlife, menopause, mistakes and random stuff: I must have seen the same future as you, we are very similar I think! Except I get treated more like a household pet than a princess to be honest! Have a very steady weekend, my friend Reggie Girl x
The Dotterel: Now that's no excuse, Sir! Please go and stand in that corner, and you can wash two more nappies than usual as penance! Chortle...
Michelle: Oooh, I wish I were going with you - I hope you have a fabulous, fabulous day! Bless you always for your kindness to me, dear friend! xox
Henry the Dog's Mum: That's no problem, HTDM, I was only trying to provoke thought and would never wish to take anyone somewhere they didn't want to go, believe me... I was horribly bullied at school and did contemplate doing away with myself a couple of times - I'm pleased my strength held out - I was brought up in an area that's now on the Index of Multiple Deprivation too... Like yours, I was lucky to have solid, loving parents who were my anchors, but I've never lived back there since I was 18... I sometimes meet my very old friend from back then, and speaking to her, I realise there is so much of what happened that I've just blocked out, locked away it. Were you an only child, like me, HTDM? I sometimes think that means you relate better to adults than your peers... xx
Fat, frumpy and fifty: Ooh, gin and chocolate - Save me some please? I am as nutty as a fruit cake, it is twue! But then you knew that, didn't you... And birds of a feather flock together, and all that! Live you, Saz xxx
The Seeker: Just leave a silver coin in that glass dish behind the curtain please? ;)
Bee and Rose: Welcome along buzzy bee and red rose! Bloggus Nuttus is such a dahlink! I think I wanted the same future you have achieved, it is strange, is it not? I'm just not sure I'm there yet with any of those goals - Maybe I shall never be, Bee! You are so clever... 'It didn't come without trials and tribulations...those things just made the prize sweeter :)'
Bloggus, dahlink! You were here all the while I was rambling on... And you know that I love you and hug you back one-thousand-fold, right? I think you have made some very conscious decisions to heal yourself and to dissemble what troubles so many of us, and to soldier on like a good 'un. I think you are brave and strong, wild and wise, clever and wonderful - Is that enough? This is not a comprehensive list of your wonders, I know, Bloggus... Have a loving weekend, my fabulous friend xxx
Good question. I've mulled it before, will mull it again. But mostly, this morning, I want to comment on how incredibly well you write. You have such a unique and entertaining writing voice. I often skim blogs for content but yours stopped me this morning and I slowed down and the reward was exquisite.
Butler and Bagman: Can you see me blushing the colour of a Mackintosh Red?! Bless you for your loveliness, you are so kind, you've actually sparked tears to my eyes. Truly... x
The first thing that came to mind was that when I was about 6, I wanted to be Heidi. I saw myself living in Switzerland, roaming the mountains.
I ended up in France, isn't that weird? Very twilight zone.
I will give it thought, though I think I know the answer. What made me veer from the path I'd have liked was pure laziness. I've been lazy about doing the things I should have done and therefore, didn't accomplish the things I would have liked to have done. I'm still that way. Every day. Now, if we can figure out where the laziness is coming from... that'd be stellar. I read somewhere that laziness is actually fear disguised. If that's so, I'm the biggest scaredy-cat on the face of the planet.
I will think some more, though, in case my immediate response wasn't quite on point... but I think I'm probably right...
Dedene: Doo, doo, doo, doo, doo, doo, doo, doo - Indeed, that is most spooky! x
Diane: Me too, as lazy as the world's most lazy thing, a sloth - Except that you aren't - You read intelligently, you write beautifully, you entertain and help educate Ryan, you teach swimming to children, you travel to meet friends,and you're also a professional in your working life - So I won't have it said that you are lazy, my chum, not at all! Exhausted, you may be... I'll give you that. xxx
I think I would go back to the day I had an entrance exam for a private school in Hampstead and I had a passage to read aloud.I was so intent on reading it nicely that I did not absorb any of the information and, consequently, when I was asked various questions about it by the headmistress, I did not know one answer,
That is quite an interesting question. My childhood, though now abusive, was quite unsettling and a bit caotic. At the same time, I really enjoyed being at home. I was not a child of fantasy. I was more that of reality. As a result, I feel I have achieved such a goal. My family did not have much respect for each other, causing a great deal of bickering and separation. As I would observe my family, I pondered on making my life so much more stable through better communication, thus more respect.
What I have learned about myself was/is I always wanted a semi-large family. Due to family dysfunction, I did not want a husband. At the time I thought about it,at age 16 (I would never have a child at that age. I had a lot of common sense) I felt I can do it on my own. Communication would be the ultimate goal between myself and my children and "their dad".
As a result, I did get married to a wonderful man who started out as my bestfriend. However, after 10 1/2 years, we did not make it. In 1996 we divorced. We did not go to court at all. We commuicated and worked it through. After several years of a very emotional transition, he has remarried and we are once again very good friends. He has apologized many, many times for our marriage not being successful, as I to him.
We have four beautiful young adult children; 21 year old girl and 19, 17 and 14 year old boys. All of them are beautiful and successful. We also have a beautiful 5 mo old grandson. So,in the end, we communicate more and more better and we agree that we are all doing very well.
What I learned from my family is, no matter how disrespectful a person approaches you, you can stop them in thier path just by the way you respond to them...by putting yourself in their shoes, by seeking an understanding with your "words" rather than your attitude, emotions or tone of voice. Often, people over personalize what other people say to them.
I think I have been successf;l in learning to love my family in all their dysfuctions while, at the same time, not being like them.
Oh dear, if you read my post today you would know that I am probably at my limit for brain use! I am literally trying to create my resume at this very moment and pop onto sites and leave comments! I will ponder this a bit and get back to you. One thing I must say....how could you name your site as you did when you are such a woman of importance? Perhaps you have delved into this long time ago before my awareness of your presence......I find myself wanting to speak as you write immediately after reading which would be funny with a southern, redneck accent!
Even when I was a little child I had no hope for the future ;(
Pretty unhappy childhood, so no going back there if you don't mind.
I do know that I wanted a lot of animals one day. Et voila!
And a rich husband.
Reasonably voila!
I still don't make plans for the future. I take every day as it comes. Even find it difficult to make plans for tomorrow as it happens.
Big smile to you ;) Love your posts.
OK here goes. Had water after treatment as adviced... and gin & tonic so voici mes devoirs...
As a young child I was a good, quiet girl, a people pleaser (surprise surprise - as Cilla would say!) so I didn't think ahead, I was too busy doing as I was told...boring...but happy and secure. As I got older I wanted to travel, which I did and meet a lovely man to marry and have kids with ... yep, yep. Careerwise I didn't have a clue and only established that one in the last few years so I guess I got there in the end, though it would have been nice to have figured this one out earlier. Hope that's OK Teach. Not too many errors after the G&T...
FF: What a cruel test to set a child - No wonder it sticks with you, you poor thing... Sometimes I believe that some educationalists have absolutely no idea about how to deal with children. Thankyou so for bringing your homework in - A*
Presious: Oh, Precious Presious! What a tale - You could blog about that separately, should you wish, I am so pleased that you reached a decent accord with your ex-, and I think you are so right in what you say - One of the exercises I have done before, is called hearing chairs, and you put yourself right in the other person's shoes, or seat, and imagine how their past and present affects how they relate to, and communicate with you. I found it a very powerful technique to understand what sometimes makes people tick, rather than always running with our assumptions about them, as we tend to do. You are very wise and very wonderful - Top marks, and I think you have been good enough to take the class goldfish home for the holidays xx
AU: I have been behind with reading blogs today - I am expecting my OH back from work abroad, so have been distracted by the shiny all about the house - I am coming over to yours shortly and I fully understand, no probs, dahlink! xx
Carolina: You have learned to live in a way that inspires you each day and keeps you going. That is wonderful. Animals to me are also very precious, and I think take us out of ourselves and enable us to focus on them rather than some of the trivia that often bogs us down, if that makes sense... I love your blog and I love your critters xo
Reasons: Hello, dahlink - Glad you are feeling a little better - See, I could not stop myself leaving advice, as usual - Slap on wrist for Fhina there!
Girls do tend to be people-pleasers, and unless you can develop skin like elephant hide we can never win, it seems to me - I have to keep halting myself in my tracks all the time for being constantly sickeningly conscientious... I am pleased that things have worked out for you over time - Your writing is chock-full of wonderful things happening with your family and life, and finding positive outcomes, in spite of having to live someplace you might not specifically have picked out to be...
Tres, tres, bien mon enfant - Please recite two Cilla Blacks and have another G & T, more T than G, after your wonderful treatment 'though! Only kidding! Love and light, xx
The day before Christmas, I fell and struck my head. Aside from the concussion (from which I have now recovered), I lost all memory of everything that happened before that date.
So, sorry; I can't participate.
Is that your family, all gone to the dogs?
Lovely to think about this. Today I saw this bumper sticker "Remember who you wanted to be." Is that the stars lining up with your post?
I believe that after many years of feeling I'd never have my dreams come true, I do have them. As a child I moved w/my family away from my hometown, friends, places I loved. I wanted to come back. Twenty five years later I'm back. I have the family I wanted, friends, many things.
It took a long time and many hard detours. I think it was a process of elimination--trying many things that didn't work, then finding that what does work is giving up trying to be other than what I am, finding that's what I wanted all along. And realizing that painful times don't mean I can't still have what I want. That pain and joy are two sides of the same coin.
Lovely questions Fhina. Thanks.
Rob-bear: I couldn't find photos of ma famille as bears, sorry! Chuckles... x
sallymandy: It's really odd, n'est-ce pas, all the little coincidences that seem to line up de temps en temps in the universe, non?!
I am pleased that life has brought you to where you most wanted to be, and that you have found love and friends there... I think life is about give and take, trial and error, and moving on from what has hurt us, as you say, but realising that however bad it gets, it shouldn't be the end, and that glimpses of blue skies may just lie around that corner... Have a fabulous weekend, friend! x
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